The Bald and The Restless

I’m not gay. But as a fat girl, lots of people assume I am. My theory is that most people are confused by a fat woman who is not on a diet. If I am fat, I’m not doing my evolutionary job, which is to make myself attractive enough for men to want to have sex with me. Being fat is an insult to male egos. It makes dating and mating difficult. I’ve even met fat guys who have the audacity to share that resentment. So why would I choose to be fat? I must be gay!

My straight girl friends with short haircuts tell me they often get the same treatment. By not keeping their hair long and straight (and blond), some men sense it’s their subtle way of saying no to our current beauty standard. “How dare you pull a Mia Farrow!” Short hair isn’t sexy to a certain kind of man, or to the woman who desires that dude.

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The Body Politic by Wendy Shanker (via pavarti)

FUCKING AMEN. 

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I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been called a “fat lesbian”, as if this is such a terrible insult.  I love to derail douchiness with “Thanks!” and leave them scratching their heads.

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(Source: honeymoonlover, via worsethanqueer)

citizenhero: Posted: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 10:00 am |Updated: 10:40 am, Tue May 10, 2011. By Heather Rudow, Advocate Staff Writer | 0 comments Dawn Marino’s thick, wavy, golden blonde hair flounces back and forth as she sets curlers in a regular’s hair at Monroe Barber & Beauty Shop in Eldersburg, but roughly two years ago the stylist was completely bald. Severe stomach pain sent the 38-year-old to the emergency room in August 2008, but she was eventually diagnosed with Stage 4 Lymphoma that started with a 13-centimeter mass in her chest and had spread to her kidney, pancreas and ovaries. Six months of aggressive chemotherapy and stem cell treatment has put Marino in remission for the past year and a half, but, she said, she still remembers how hard the process was on her as well as her family. What was especially tough for them, she said, was the literal fallout from all of her treatments, where she lost the hair on her body. “I never got sick, which was lucky,” Marino said, “but losing my hair twice was the hardest. I lost it first during the chemo and it was starting to grow back, but then during stem cell [treatment] I lost it again … [which] was hard on my daughter. It freaked her out. She would always say, ‘You’re going to wear a hat, right, Mom?’ which did hurt.” Having been through it herself, Marino said, she knows most cancer patients miss the normalcy of having a full head of hair more than almost anything else. Which is why she is thrilled to be cutting residents’ hair to send to the non-profit, wig-making organization, Locks of Love. Locks of Love provides hairpieces for children younger than 21 who are suffering from long-term hair loss due to a medical condition such as chemotherapy, and was something Monroe Barber & Beauty Shop Owner Winnie Bullock was not particularly familiar with until overhearing a conversation between two waitresses at Stables Restaurant and Lounge in Westminster. The girls had finally grown their hair the 10-inch requirement needed to donate to the organization, and they were looking for a place to cut it. Bullock said he knew instantly Marino would be perfect for the job.. Read More Here:

citizenhero:

Posted: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 10:00 am |Updated: 10:40 am, Tue May 10, 2011.

By Heather Rudow, Advocate Staff Writer | 0 comments

Dawn Marino’s thick, wavy, golden blonde hair flounces back and forth as she sets curlers in a regular’s hair at Monroe Barber & Beauty Shop in Eldersburg, but roughly two years ago the stylist was completely bald.

Severe stomach pain sent the 38-year-old to the emergency room in August 2008, but she was eventually diagnosed with Stage 4 Lymphoma that started with a 13-centimeter mass in her chest and had spread to her kidney, pancreas and ovaries. Six months of aggressive chemotherapy and stem cell treatment has put Marino in remission for the past year and a half, but, she said, she still remembers how hard the process was on her as well as her family. What was especially tough for them, she said, was the literal fallout from all of her treatments, where she lost the hair on her body.

“I never got sick, which was lucky,” Marino said, “but losing my hair twice was the hardest. I lost it first during the chemo and it was starting to grow back, but then during stem cell [treatment] I lost it again … [which] was hard on my daughter. It freaked her out. She would always say, ‘You’re going to wear a hat, right, Mom?’ which did hurt.”

Having been through it herself, Marino said, she knows most cancer patients miss the normalcy of having a full head of hair more than almost anything else. Which is why she is thrilled to be cutting residents’ hair to send to the non-profit, wig-making organization, Locks of Love.

Locks of Love provides hairpieces for children younger than 21 who are suffering from long-term hair loss due to a medical condition such as chemotherapy, and was something Monroe Barber & Beauty Shop Owner Winnie Bullock was not particularly familiar with until overhearing a conversation between two waitresses at Stables Restaurant and Lounge in Westminster. The girls had finally grown their hair the 10-inch requirement needed to donate to the organization, and they were looking for a place to cut it. Bullock said he knew instantly Marino would be perfect for the job..

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Excerpt from my final analysis of this project:

One of the most rewarding parts of this project was when a woman asked to shake my hand after I told her why I shaved my head because her young daughter had just started chemo and recently woke up to see her hair still on her pillow. She said she feared more for her daughter after she lost her hair than when she found out she had cancer.

She knew her daughter could beat the illness but she didn’t see how her daughter could beat the whole world telling her she wasn’t beautiful. 

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samisrad:

I originally wasn’t going to post this up on here, but I decided to after the positive response I’ve received. This is the link to my (for lack of a better term) cancer support/outreach blog. Feel free to check it out, spread the word, ignore it, whatever. But if you know someone who might benefit from this, please, please send them over there. Thanks guys!

There if you need it. 

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Anonymous asked: Are you planning on keeping your hair that short?

At this point I’m just letting it grow. I’m excited to play around with it and see how different it can look. 

That said I can’t see myself going back to long hair. After hearing people tell me how much they love it and how much I love it I just don’t see myself dealing with an unruly shoulder length mane. 

Plus I thoroughly enjoy being able to shake myself off like a dog after a shower. 

The worst part was just when you thought you were getting used to it, you’d see some advert on television for shampoo with a model tossing her hair around, or an advert for mascara, which only reminded me that I didn’t have any eyelashes any more.’

—The heartache of losing your hair: In this inspiring photo diary, one breast cancer victim describes how she coped.

(Source: Daily Mail)

sabrinadropkick asked: WHY AM I JUST NOW SEEING THIS BLOG?!?!! You're my fucking favorite.

Thanks Sabrina. I’ll be sure to let you rub my head next time you’re in town. 

sassmyers asked: can Maya come sleep over?

Totally! Then we can braid each other’s hair, paint our nails, talk about what boys we like and then pick out our wedding dresses! 

ptolymye asked: I think you are so beautiful!!! and i'm very interesting in your project/blog!!!

Thank you! I’m glad you like it.